A sensual massage not only makes for great foreplay, it’s great for reconnecting emotionally. There is something very sweet and sincere about this slow, soothing touch. You are also showing your guy that you care about him—relaxing him, easing away the stress of the day—while discovering what pleases him. Here are some tips.
The first thing you need is a firm, flat and stable area. Most beds are simply too soft and bouncy. You might want to spread several thick blankets on the floor, inserting pillows under his head and knee area.
You may also want massage oils. You can get any at a beauty store. Why don’t you pick a scent together, or if you want it to be a surprise, pick a sensual musky fragrance.
Scented candles and calming music can help create the perfect ambience for a sensual massage.
One very easy move is to lay your palm flat, then push against it with another. Slowly rotate your hands, as if you were flattening a ball of clay. This is great on the shoulder blades and the back, but stay clear of the spinal area. For smaller flat surfaces, like the feet, just use the tips of your fingers.
For the arms and legs, try kneading, or squeezing the limbs as you lift them. This feels great on the wrist area, which is all knotted up from hours at the computer. Gently pull at the fingers and toes.
Ask your partner what movements he enjoys or what part of the body he wants you to focus on. He may have a crick in his neck or pain in his shoulders, so you can devote more attention to that. If you have difficulty applying pressure for long periods—massages can be tiring—try wooden massage rollers or balls.
You can also watch this Youtube video on giving a massage to help you understand the movements.