Some people seem to ooze confidence. It’s something about the way they talk or carry themselves, plus the way they respond to situations that would leave the rest of us flustered. But it’s not a ‘natural gift’ that only a few can enjoy. Here are some tips on how to look and be more confident. [Read more…]
Everyone is afraid of something. Fear is a primal emotion, a natural survival mechanism when our mind feels your safety is threatened. It doesn’t have to make sense (a kid can be afraid of a vacuum cleaner; you could be afraid of public speaking) but it is, nevertheless, real to us. How do we get it under control? [Read more…]
I’ll admit it: I hate going to formal parties. I feel like I’m in high school all over again, wearing the wrong thing and saying something that will totally embarrass myself in front of the ‘popular kids’ (in this case, the bosses, or the gorgeous socialites, or actually anyone else in the room). Once, in a fit of clumsiness, I bumped into a cocktail table and spilled a bit of my drink on the dress. I was convinced everyone had seen what had happened, or had noticed the stain, and I squirmed in embarrassment.
Experts call this the ‘spotlight effect’ when we think we’re getting more attention than we really do. Frankly, most people don’t care what we do or say. But we still think we’re being haunted by social judgments. Here are some tips on overcoming self-consciousness. [Read more…]
You can work hard and follow all the rules, but you can still be as useful and as invisible as a doormat. Your success depends a lot on how other people in the office perceive you, and they can get their cues from things you take for granted: the way you talk, walk, and even introduce yourself. Here are some useful life tips on how to ‘package’ yourself so that your skills and contribution get noticed. [Read more…]
Striking a conversation in any kind of occasion can be quite a predicament for some people. There are people who just find it difficult to star conversing with someone, especially a stranger in a social situation. At the very worst circumstances, they would find themselves unable to talk sensibly. They get tongue-tied or they stutter and their minds would even go blank because of the anxiety. Now imagine talking in front of a group of people and you’ll realize that this can become a problem. Here are ways to control your anxiety or fear and learn to talk more effortlessly in these kinds of situation. [Read more…]