Which secrets should be kept and which should be told? The question of privacy among couples is a grey area – ‘lets tell each other everything!’ is the usual pact of love one hears and believes. ‘If you keep anything from me, I won’t love you anymore!’ is the more immature threat that young lovers throw at each other. But is this realistic? [Read more…]
We’ve heard this again and again from many brides: ‘Get the best wedding photographer you can afford.’ If you’ve got a limited budget, then save on wedding invitations or flower arrangements—these details aren’t absolutely crucial to the experience. But years from now, your wedding photos will be your most cherished keepsakes, and you want someone with the experience and skill to capture those beautiful memories for you. Here are tips on how to choose the best wedding photographer for your budget. [Read more…]
Thinking of what to get your wife or girlfriend for Valentine’s Day? Flowers and jewelry are safe bets (what girl wouldn’t want a gorgeous diamond pendant?) but they’re…boring. If you really want to swoon over how thoughtful you are, then put some thought into your gift. Give her something unique, special and memorable. Here are some ideas for Valentine’s gift ideas. [Read more…]
What do you do when your partner is a flirt? Even if s/he claims that it’s all harmless (or that it’s all in your imagination) this issue needs to be addressed.
That’s because flirting goes far deeper than either of you think. Though traditional relationship advice tackles ‘signs of flirting‘ or ‘flirting etiquette’ the real issue is actually about boundaries and trust. Whether or not it’s flirting, the point is that it’s hurting you. How to make it stop? Read on for relationship advice. [Read more…]
What do women really want? Diamonds are nice, but studies show that women’s needs are pretty basic. Unfortunately, they think their husbands don’t meet them or don’t give equal priority to them.
So men, sit up and listen. This list will help you anticipate your wife’s emotional needs. Do this, and you’ll keep her happy – and you can always gently remind her that you’re actually doing your best. It’ll save you a lot of fights, nagging, and tearful accusations of: ‘You don’t care about me!’
1. ‘We want to know that you’re committed to the family.
We can forgive you if you don’t always wash the dishes or pass by for the dry cleaning. But we need to know that we can rely on you to share the responsibility of raising the kids. Read to them, play with them, take them on frequent outings. It won’t kill you, either, to read up on parenting books or at the very least ask us about the latest trends. Don’t ever say, ‘The kids are your problem.’ Last time we checked, you were part of conception – now be part of everything else, too.
2. ‘We want to know that we can rely on you to provide.
This doesn’t mean that you have to provide an extravagant lifestyle. And we’re not expecting you to do it on your own, either. Most women (at least the fair, rational ones) are more than willing to help out and supplement the family’s income.
What we can’t deal with, however, is a bum. Someone who depends on others—an inheritance, or his poor wife—to pay the bills, while you sit on his sorry ass. Unless, of course, you agreed as a couple that you would stay home and take care of the kids. However, this is a job, too, with the very important responsibility of providing a happy, well-ordered home. Take it seriously, and don’t expect your wife to handle house duties on top of making money.
Let’s put it this way: your wife needs a partner, not another child to take care of.
3. ‘We want to feel cherished.’
The secret? Affection, and lots of it. Show love through words, cards, gifts, hugs, kisses and courtesies. And no, just saying ‘Hey, I want to have sex tonight’ doesn’t count. Women need to experience tenderness that has no strings attached. Tenderness for its own sake, because you want to give it, and you think we deserve it.
4. ‘We want heartfelt conversations.’
Are all the conversations about bills, kids, work? Do all the ‘serious’ conversations deteriorate into angry fights and judgmental statements?
Women need emotional connection, and that means being able to share thoughts, feelings, dreams, etc. without being judged or ignored. We want to open up—and we want you to open up to us, too. We feel brushed off when you just say, ‘I don’t want to talk about it’ or give a look or grunt that clearly says, ‘I’m fine, go away.’