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May 28, 2011 By wilsonchloe99

Sex and intimacy are very important foundations in any marriage it makes the partners feel secure and safe in the relationship and it also creates a bond between them. When intimacy and sex leaves the marriage you can be sure that it is indicative of brewing trouble.

The definition of a sexless marriage should be qualified though. It doesn’t necessarily mean that sex has totally left the marriage. For example, if you want to have sex everyday but your partner is only willing to have sex twice a week it is not a sexless marriage. But on the other hand, if you want to have sex three times a week and your partner is only willing once a month it is a sexless marriage.

A sexless marriage is hard to discuss sometimes and the other partner (usually the one who is not willing to get more intimate) will not likely understand what it means and what its implications are. Since their demand for sex is being met they don’t consider it a sexless marriage.

The huge difference in the sexual needs of the spouses is what triggers the trouble. One person will gain control of when sex is initiated and it leaves the other partner powerless and frustrated. Unfortunately, this situation is not uncommon. Studies show that 1 in 5 marriages are considered sexless. The effects of a sexless marriage can be hard because the constant rejection can make the partner feel unwanted and undesirable. It also contributes to feelings of being trapped in a relationship.

Some signs that you may be heading towards a sexless marriage are:
� Going to bed later or early than your partner to avoid the advances

� Relenting to sex out of guilt and not out of a desire to get intimate with your partner

� Argue about sex

� Blaming each other about sex or the reasons for not having sex

� Complaining that the partner is always amorous

� Blaming the children, work or other external problems for not wanting sex

� Feeling resentful or angry towards your partner

� Wondering whether your spouse loves you or not

� Shutting down emotionally and building a wall around yourself to protect yourself from rejection

� Feeling frustrated because your partner does not seem to understand where you’re coming from

� Entertaining thoughts of finding companionship with other people

Famous personality Dr. Phil says that sexless marriages is an epidemic, with an estimated 20 to 40 million couples in the US alone complaining of this particular problem.

A sexless marriage can be fixed but the issue of sex and intimacy in a marriage is so hard to discuss. A discussion of the underlying causes for a sexless marriage can also lead to more friction. For example, work is one factor that is most commonly brought up when dealing with this problem. But marriage experts say that all the hard work is ultimately wasted if it means a failed relationship. Also, there are spouses who think that sex is ultimately not important in a relationship. Unfortunately, if the problem goes on for too long, permanent damage on the relationship is inevitable.

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The sensual touch: Tips on how to do it

May 9, 2011 By wilsonchloe99

Sensual touching is a very erotic activity. And contrary to what people often think, sensual touching is actually a two-way street. As your partner derives pleasure from you touching her skin, you also get pleasure feeling your partner’s skin. The most wonderful moment is whenever you and your partner are in tune with each other and both have one goal � to pleasure each other.

Touch is something that women absolutely love. But even though women love it, different women would react to it. Some will be more in tune with their sensuality and will be open to it, while others will be more reserved and will be quite closed to it. You should create opportunities to touch your partner more often so that they’ll get used to it and drop their inhibitions. By touching your partner often you’ll also elicit more feelings of comfort and attraction from her. She’ll also gain feelings of safety and sexual excitement.

When you touch her try and look into her eyes. By holding her gaze you will increase the intensity of what she is feeling. Don’t be discouraged if she gazes down, she’ll eventually look at you again and you can hold that gaze now.

You can also try exploring her body by touching her in different ways. Allow your hands to explore her body while paying attention to areas where she responds more positively. Women have different erogenous zones and it’s your job to find out where those are so that the next time you touch her, you’ll know the areas where she will respond more positively. This will be an added treat for her.

The way you touch her is also going to make a lot of contribution to how she feels in the end. Make sure that your touch is light and delicate. Use the tips of your fingers instead of the palms of your hands. At some points you can use the palms of your hands but do it gently. Caress her back and her neck. Then the inside and the back of legs. You can also gently caress her face and her upper arms.

One of the things that is most often forgotten when touching a woman is her hair. Women love it when you gently stroke their hair. Women feel a sense of love and security just by doing this. You can actually start your sensual touching with the gentle stroking of her hair and then work yourself down to her face and eventually her body.

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Too Tired for Sex? 5 Ways to Cope

September 23, 2010 By wilsonchloe99

You’ve just had a long, hectic day. You’ve had a full day at work, and when you come home, you’re immediately greeted by household chores, clingy kids, and a stack of bills. There’s dinner to prepare and a report that’s due tomorrow morning.

Then, when you lie down in bed�eager to get much-needed sleep�your husband gives you that look. Oh, no! Something tells you that he’s about to ask for sex, but you’re just not in the mood, and haven’t been in a long time. ‘I’m tired, honey,’ you say, but he gets upset. ‘You’re always tired!’ he complains. What do you do? [Read more…]

5 Ways Sex Makes You Healthier

September 20, 2010 By wilsonchloe99

Finally, doctor’s advice we want to take. Studies show that having sex regularly brings numerous health benefits!
We’re assuming, of course, that you’re not doing something stupid like having unprotected sex with total strangers, using unsterilized sex toys, or cavorting with large farm animals. But within the bounds of common sense, it’s safe to say: sex can make you feel better, look younger, and even boost your immune system. It can even lower your risk for cancer! [Read more…]

4 Sex Habits that Scare Guys Away

September 9, 2010 By wilsonchloe99

You want him, he wants you, and you can’t keep your hands off each other. Then, for some weird reason, he’s not interested. You think, ‘He’s a jerk!’ and set out to find someone better. Then it happens again. Uh oh, what’s up with that?

You’re obviously attractive, and assuming you don’t have funky hygiene issues or a big ‘Dump me!’ tattooed on your forehead, it’s not about you. Or maybe, not what you think. You could have inadvertedly killed the passion with habits that lower your sex appeal�turning him off just when your relationship (or at least, your clothes) should be taking off. [Read more…]